homophobia related to the split-attraction model, a little ableism
there's so much resistance to it, like, i have genuinely seen multiple people imply that anyone using the split attraction model is (insert various mental illnesses, slurs, and insults here). or that it is inherently damaging to anyone in contact with it. and... straight up not understand that that is homophobic.
homophobia related to the split-attraction model
like, im sorry but if you are telling queer people that they're just pretending/lying, that they're too young to think about their sexuality, that basic queer terminology & labels are inappropriate for children, or that they are literally mentally ill for being queer in the "wrong" way, You Are Being Homophobic!
i think that people online, especially in the places i (until recently) frequented on twitter, have convinced themselves that being a cop is a good thing. sit up straight and look pretty for the wells fargo pride float, kids, and never ever put a toe out of line, or we will beat you into submission.
i love being queer, and messy, and hard to put a label on. i've changed my entire identity multiple times. i've been a man, a woman, genderfluid, agender, and more. i've been bi, ace, aro, bi again, and a lesbian. i've used weird combinations of all of these that i've had to delete all evidence of, out of fear. i've gone by 5 or 6 names now. I want to keep doing so. I'm never gonna stop being messy and a happy existence in major queer spaces online is impossible because of that.
homophobia related to the split-attraction model
@callieroxy the issue with the discourse surrounding the split attraction model is that most people who oppose it do so on the basis that they personally previously were only romantically attracted to the opposite gender and sexually attracted to the same gender, and interrogated that and found it to be internalized homophobia, and are now extending that experience to everyone else as if it was universal
homophobia related to the split-attraction model
@callieroxy I feel like a lot of discourse in queer spaces is literally just people not realizing that their experience isnt universal and that other people experience things differently and maybe they should shut the fuck up and let people use their own terminology to describe themselves
homophobia related to the split-attraction model
@LikeClockwork big agree.
@callieroxy you are so cool
@kate B)
@callieroxy "being queer is FUN AS HELL, actually" are words to live by
@callieroxy i read this thread earlier today and i haven't stopped thinking about it. it's super inspiring and you rock.
@callieroxy *hollers excitedly in support of you*
@callieroxy this is fantastic, keep it up
homophobia related to the split-attraction model
nah, it's not for everyone by a long shot, but i'll never understand looking at a person who is critically thinking about and more deeply understanding their identity and saying "you're wrong actually, i know better". and this is a surprisingly controversial take to have???