they were clearly upset that they had to explain this, not in a way where they were upset with me just like tired of the whole thing and tired of people not knowing what this person had done and I was just thinking to myself “I know this specific emotion you’re showing so exactly, and I’m so sorry my offhand comment triggered these feelings in you”
this also happens to be the one coworker who has asked me “did you girlfriend name herself after a Homestuck character” and then said they have avoided ever reading homestuck because of the fandom so we really are the same level of online